Feeling Stuck? Were we conditioned to feel stuck?
Do you ever feel stuck? Stagnant? Like you know there’s something better out there, but you’re not sure how to get it… Chances are you are stuck because of your beliefs (or limiting beliefs), and these beliefs likely came from the conditioning you received throughout your life. But don’t worry, your conditioning isn’t permanent and once you get unstuck you’ll be on the fast track to more joy and happiness in your life. :)
Conditioning is something we have all experienced and are exposed to on a regular basis. Simply put, it’s a type of learning that we experience through our environment and the people in it. It’s not necessarily a bad thing. You can be conditioned to be kind and compassionate towards others in the same way someone else can be conditioned to be cruel.
What’s most important about conditioning is how it influences our actions and decisions.
We receive conditioning from family, society, media, and any other place we choose to give our attention.
If you want to dig into your own conditioning, look at the things you believe but don’t know why. For example, do you believe that in order to be wealthy you have to work 60+ hours a week? Can you think of an example where this isn’t true? So, if it isn’t true for someone else, why does it have to be true for you?
This small shift in belief (that something is possible for you, too) can take you from feeling stuck to feeling energized, and a new way of thinking can bring new opportunities.
Conditioning comes up a lot when we start to look at our Human Design chart. In particular at energy type. An energy type is the starting place for Human Design, it lets you know how you best use and engage with your own energy. For example, a Projector has a limited amount of energy when it comes to sharing their knowledge and expertise. They need time to rest, and time to work on whatever their interest is. Projectors are often conditioned to feel like they are being lazy because they’ve been told that money/success only comes to those that work hard all the time. Of course, if a Projector tries to work against their type they’ll burn out and not be able to provide any of that incredible wisdom and innovation they could have if only they were left alone to do their thing. In other words, they’ll feel stuck.
If you are a parent, it can be helpful to know your child’s energy type so you can learn how to best support them. For example, if your child is a Manifesting Generator, you could expect them to have many interests and not condition them to believe that they need to finish everything they start. It’s not always necessary to become an expert in everything. Perhaps trying out several sports will make them more likely to engage in physical activities as an adult, whereas if they had to stick with one that they no longer had interest in, they might grow to dread the very idea of being active.
The point of questioning conditioning is to really investigate your beliefs and ask yourself why you believe what you believe. Does it still stand? Does it still resonant?
Back in early 2020 while attending University, I asked my professor why we couldn’t have our class online since the temperatures were well below minus thirty and transit wasn’t running. She said it just wouldn’t be possible to take an in-person class and move it online. Two months later, all classes were online due to the pandemic.
Things change so quickly! It’s always worth it to look at your beliefs and question them.
Identifying beliefs that no longer feel aligned is the first step in the process of de-conditioning and getting unstuck.
You’ll know it’s time to question those beliefs when something in your life isn’t flowing the way you want it to. Where are the areas in your life that you feel stuck? Let me know in the comments.
Melissa xo
P.S. If you want my help getting you unstuck - book a Human Design reading with me. It’s the best way for both of us to look at your design and chart a course for your ultimate joy and happiness. ✨